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Michael Jantz Moon's avatar

I’d be interested in meeting - although your porch seems like a gnarly commute from DC.

I grew up without a father.

Yet for me, and because of my progressive values and feminist partner, I feel like in our society that men ARE the voices. I have been feeling for sometime that I should be saying less and listening more (elevating) women, African American & marginalized voices forward in conversations. So the idea of a men’s group feels at odds to me because hasn’t our society always been one big men’s group?

This episode is making me question that. Thank you:)

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Hal Walker's avatar

HI Michael. thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I'd love to see you someday. H

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Lindsey Trout Hughes's avatar

“In case you didn't know it, I have the best front porch on South Chestnut Street.” You regularly write some of my favorite sentences, Hal!

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Hal Walker's avatar

It's true. thank you. Lindsey.

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Laura Achee's avatar

Hal, thank you for sharing about your group and explaining presencing. Now I’m interested to hear about your experience at that Friends Meeting! I hope one day you’ll feel like sharing it, I know from past writings that you have been trying to figure out God and your relationship to Him.

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thank you Laura... Stay tuned. :)

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Randy Bish's avatar

Thanks for sharing this Hal. Its a great question, "where are the men?" I appreciate your writing style and especially the challenge. Its a challenge that I will explore the next several days. Peace and love.

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thanks so much, Randy.

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CeeJay Cook's avatar

We have a group like this that includes some men, but mostly women All senior citizens. We meet at a member’s class, have coffee and bagels, then use the UU small group format that, like yours , provides time for individuals to share deeply with each other. We all agree that we need this. So glad you have formed this group

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Margot Milcetich's avatar

What a great offering. We can gather with your format and dive ourselves into what feels so good just to read. Smiles, here.

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thank you Margot. I so appreciate that you read these. H

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Michael Askren's avatar

I’d love to do this with my male friends! Except… I don’t have too many at this point. Guess that goes hand in hand with your question. I tried opening up to one of my close male friends about my need for such experiences and his limited understanding of masculinity made him shut me down. That was unfortunate.

I’ve glad you’ve found such a grounding experience in learning to rediscover your own masculinity, Hal!

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Hal Walker's avatar

Wow. thanks for sharing, Michael. I'm so sorry your friend reacted that way. Hal

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Laura Achee's avatar

Michael, I’m so sorry that was the response you got from your friend. I hope you find some men that can be real, supportive friends. Hal and his group are your sign that they do exist!

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Bill Cummings's avatar

I love this. And, like you, I grew up surrounded by women and I had few male role models. I teach 6th graders now, and told them about this part of my background (to normalize "non traditional families")

Anyway, nice work making your vision a reality

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Hal Walker's avatar

Hi Bill. Thanks for being there. H

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Scott MacInnis's avatar

I’m very moved that presencing has legs and has spread to your group and even has a song! Yay!

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Hal Walker's avatar

Yes. Yay! Thank you. Where did you get presencing. Did you make it up?

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Missy's avatar

This is amazing work you are doing Hal. Not only for yourself but for other men. Keep going......

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thank you so much, Missy. H

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Scott MacInnis's avatar

I went to the spiritual psychology school, called Ridhwan. I spent 9 1/2 years there. We did this thing called dialectical field tracking. It was pretty much like presencing where you use all your senses to feel the field created by the people you are with. It was my favorite thing that we did. So I basically re-packaged that and called it presencing.

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David Mcdougald's avatar

Hal,

What a blessing your idea blossomed into, it's some combination of community, friendship, creativity, therapy, and mysticism.

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Hal Walker's avatar

See you Wednesday, my friend.

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Pat Hixson's avatar

Hi Hal, this is an absolutely awesome and powerful thing you are doing with this group. I really enjoyed reading it. Great job. Pat

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thank you, Pat. ❤️

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Marion Yeagler's avatar

I’m so glad you have found your men’s group. It makes me happy to know that.

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Hal Walker's avatar

Thank you Marion. It makes me happy to see you at the KNF. :)

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Carol Bailey Floyd's avatar

Love your men’s group!! And the structures you’ve developed over the years. ♥️♥️♥️

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Janee Krimmer's avatar

What a lovely new adventure. I have always been shy about joining and sharing. It is very brave of all of you to develop this group and to grow it into exactly what you need. Hugs to all.

Janee

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